My relationship therapist told me this story when I asked, “How to choose a friend”


The relationship therapist narrated me an ancient Greek story. The story is about Socrates and his “Triple Filter Test” and suggests good advice on how to choose a friend.

In ancient Greece, Socrates was very famous as a highly knowledgeable scholar and philosopher. One day a young man came to him and told that he has some news regarding his friends, which he might like to hear. Before telling the news Socrates asked him to pass the “Triple Filter Test.” Young man accepted his request.

What is Triple Filter Test?

Socrates started his “Triple Filter Test.” First test was the filter of truth. Socrates asked him that the information he would tell was true. The fellow replied in “No” and said, I have heard it on the way so he was not sure about the truth.

Socrates asked again a question to check the second test, which was the test of goodness. He asked that the information was good about his friend. The person moved his head to say “No” and again he failed in the test. Young man asked Socrates to clarify reason of the “Triple Filter Test.”

Socrates said, “I will tell you later my friend, before hearing the news I want to know one more question.” Socrates asked his third question, “Is it useful for me?” Answer was the “No” again?

Socrates replied that the information regarding a friend is not true, good and useful for him, why it should be told him. The moral of the story is, you should not loose gossips behind the friends.


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